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盖尔·布鲁斯-桑福德博士.D.,员工心理学家
密歇根州立大学丹佛 咨询中心, a Department of 皇冠官网网站
Stress is inevitable; it is very difficult to avoid it completely. 皇冠官网网站都以不同的方式应对它. 当然,有些方式比其他方式更健康. 作为大学生, you may have a better sense of when to anticipate some stressful times such as mid-terms, 有演讲或朗诵的日子, 期末考试, 回家过节,重新适应旧的生活习惯, 毕业典礼和一些必要的社交活动等等. 注意,其中一些听起来像是纯粹的乐趣, but even exciting and fun events could be a source of positive stress; it’s still stress. Whenever our existing resources are inadequate for handling multiple expectations and demands, 皇冠官网网站有压力. Hence there are implications for maintaining a healthy balance to avoid the stress trigger.
Let’s look at this issue through the lens of a young adult student, Veney, who is curious about deepening understanding of this stress phenomenon.
Veney:
假期快到了,我打算去看望我的父母和两个十年级的双胞胎弟弟妹妹. 我深深地爱着他们, 但是和他们在一起的第一天之后, 他们都把我逼疯了, 我发现自己想要避开它们. 我能做些什么来避免在这个问题上如此紧张呢?
Bruce-Sanford:
Let me start of by saying that I recognize some good strengths in your family dynamics. You all seem to get along well, and the first day of reuniting appears to be fun and cherished.
There is something that happens from the second day that perhaps you all need to discuss openly. It could be related to unrealistic expectations of each other such as feeling imposed upon, 请注意,正是这些微妙和细微的差别经常会污染和谐的关系, 尤其是如果不公开分享的话. 毕竟, 你在大学里,会有一些不同于你成长过程中的不同变化,没有人真正准备好接受这一点,在很多方面,你们都开始从不同的角度看待彼此. Parents may find you too independent and you may perceive them as being stuck in their ways. It is hard to talk about because no-one wants to hurt the other’s feelings intentionally; but, feelings are still being hurt because something is not being said and everyone feels stressed.
Veney:
所以,我可以告诉我的父母,我对感情有不同的看法,以及他们如何抚养我的弟弟妹妹吗?
Bruce-Sanford:
是的,当然. I am suggesting that you invite dialogue in a very respectful manner; no need to lose your cool. 你可以这样说:“妈妈和爸爸, I have been noticing some tension among us; can we talk some more about it? Perhaps you are noticing my withdrawing a bit more than usual; I am not sure …” Such an approach opens up the opportunity for clarification and a deepening of understanding as both parties decide to engage in a process of sharing, listening and validation of each other as you identify the issues that get in the way.
Veney:
My parents are really opinionated and I doubt that they would listen to me.
Bruce-Sanford:
I appreciate your saying that because this issue is so real for so many. 重要的一点是,在开始批评之前,首先对他们表达你真正感激的事情. 这样你的观点就更容易被接受.
Veney:
That’s helpful for dealing with stress in the family; what do I do about just feeling simply overwhelmed?
Bruce-Sanford:
然而,学生们经常承担太多的任务. 以下是你可能会觉得有用的十条建议:
韦尼,我必须重申自我照顾的重要性. As we encounter the many demands that are placed on us, we want to maintain control and balance. 一位经验丰富的作家曾经说过:“生活不是等待暴风雨过去……而是学会在雨中跳舞。.”
当有需要时,请不要犹豫,利用皇冠官网网站的心理健康咨询中心的专业人员获得一些专业支持.
We are located in Tivoli 651 and can be reached by phone at 303-615-9988. Our website can be accessed at any time for additional resources at bsimpson.net/counsel.
作者:辛迪老虎博士.D.,注册营养师
奥瑞瑞亚的健康中心
如果你已经为健康和减肥努力了一段时间, 你可能已经知道这些基本的激励策略:
这里有两个新的有趣的激励方法可以尝试:
这里和现在的原因
皇冠官网网站中的许多人与自己讨价还价. 皇冠官网网站告诉自己,如果皇冠官网网站今天锻炼,那么, 最终, 如果皇冠官网网站保持下去, 皇冠官网网站将达到皇冠官网网站的体重和健身目标. 皇冠官网网站甚至会对自己说, 当我减肥的时候, 那么我就值得被爱和尊重. 新的研究(见下面的参考文献)表明,专注于此时此地的理由可能更有动力.
例如, instead of thinking of the long-term benefits of going for a walk today, 在午休时间, 想想更直接的好处. Maybe it will be a chance to clear your head and be more efficient and creative when you get back. Maybe a walk is the only way you can get away from constant emails, phone calls and office chatter.
特别是如果你告诉自己你要更好地照顾自己,做更多的自我照顾的事情 后 你已经减肥了,或者度过了一段忙碌的时光. 再想想. You’ll perform better, on any goal, if you take care of yourself. 用表现的理由让自己开始基本的自我照顾行为,比如自己做饭, getting to the dance class or scheduling that overdue doctor’s appointment.
当事情出错时,保持一种成长的心态
几乎所有尝试过挑战的人都经历过失败,陷入了研究员卡罗尔·德韦克所说的“固定心态”. 固定心态思维通常会在什么时候出现, 在尝试了健康或体重管理策略之后, 你没有看到你所希望的结果. You may say things to yourself things that sound like “It’s always been like this; It will always be like this; this is just who I am.德韦克和其他研究人员建议皇冠官网网站抵制固定心态思维,并提醒自己:
真正酷的是,研究人员发现,那些提醒自己失败可以被视为进步中“有趣”部分的人,开始对挑战和挫折感到不那么糟糕. They are more apt to take on and succeed at difficult goals like losing weight, building their physical fitness or escaping unproductive habits and routines.
In summary, there are almost as many motivation strategies as there are eating strategies. 比如吃得好, finding the motivation strategies that work for you takes knowledge, 指导和一些个人实验.
如果你有兴趣在减肥和健康目标方面得到一些帮助, 一定要打303-352-7008预约见我, 辛迪老虎, Ph.D.她是奥瑞瑞亚健康中心的注册营养师.
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期刊文章:
你说这是什么,博客? 哈? 为什么? 我经常发现自己想与学生分享信息——甚至提供一点建议——那些不容易“适合”在部门网站或类似的正式格式上的学生.
我想,经过15年帮助大学生成功的工作,我有一些至理名言,可能会对大家有所帮助. 我也经常惊讶于我的同事们所拥有的丰富的信息——无论是确定应对一个特别棘手的挑战的最佳方式,还是学习以非传统的形式领导, there’s a wealth of help and support in the minds of the 皇冠官网网站 team.
We’d like to sit down with each student and help individuals maximize their college experience, 但在这么大的机构里, 多样化的, 和密歇根州立大学丹佛分校一样忙, 这并不总是可行的. 于是,博客诞生了. The idea is simple: Share what’s on our mind to help students be successful.
Within SEW we focus on the personal experience of 密歇根州立大学丹佛 students. 而皇冠官网网站的同事正在研究帮助学生支付大学学费的细微差别, 注册正确的类集, 或者提供优秀的学术支持和经验, our role is in the co-curricular (that’s academic speak for complimenting the academic experience). Learning happens outside the walls of the classroom, labs, or the Blackboard course structure. Likewise, sometimes life happens and impacts one’s best-laid plans for the semester. SEW团队在这里为您服务.
反思自己的大学经历, 我想起了我作为学生领袖的经历的价值,它帮助我进入了我的第一个专业职位, 还有我和朋友们喝着冷冻酸奶(那时候我不喝咖啡)时看似随意的谈话的意义?!)远远超出了皇冠官网网站课堂讲课的范围. 我也在想,当生活突然爆发,造成了当时似乎不可逾越的障碍时,从一个有能力、有同情心的人那里得到帮助的重要性.
在SEW中,皇冠官网网站“得到”每个密歇根州立大学丹佛分校的学生都有一套独特的生活环境影响他们的密歇根州立大学丹佛分校的经历,你们每个人对密歇根州立大学丹佛分校的经历也有不同的期望. 这个博客为皇冠官网网站提供了一个分享观点的平台,并为皇冠官网网站的同伴提供了一些建议.
心中有了一个话题,想听听皇冠官网网站可能要说什么吗? You can always contact us to let us know what’s on your mind or suggest a topic for us to tackle.
继续运行,
Braelin